One of the reasons why so many people suffer various versions of anxieties, depressions, and general low self-worth and lack of confidence is because they are emotionally and spiritually isolated. They may have plenty of people around them and have been able to figure out how to fit in, but on the inside don’t feel they belong.

We can all fit in by simply mimicking the behaviours, language, and attitudes of those groups. Sometimes fitting in can be the direct opposite. Go quiet, not contribute and basically be physically present, uttering all the right noises, but on the inside, you couldn’t be more out of alignment.

If all we have are groups of people we hang out with where we are completely outsourcing our power and character to the whims of the ‘needs’ of these groups, it is inevitable that we will get to a point where we can’t take it anymore. In the extreme of this people, disappear from these groups never to be seen again. They simply stop showing up. In the super extreme of th...

Clarity is misunderstood. We will never have clarity of what our future may bring. So many people are fascinated with the future. Nobody knows what is going to happen. Even in the professional industries relating to economics, property and share markets, nobody can predict what is going to happen. ‘Oh but Joe, I have read many articles over time, when experts have claimed they got it right!’ Well, if we continue projecting many views of what the future may bring a dart will eventually hit to the bullseye, as I discovered playing darts with Nicolas, my 10-year-old son. If we throw enough of them, one would strike the middle of the board. Just like the lottery, all the numbers will be picked at some point, sometime.

To avoid the clarity trap, we need to understand what clarity is and what it is not. We need to also know to understand how clarity actually works.

Given, we will never have clarity of the content of our future, in other words, how the future roles out in detail. For ...

It has been said that as human beings we will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. Whilst it may be true that the human condition is wired this way, to simply be putting more energy into avoiding pain in the form of mistakes, fears of failing, fears of the unknown and so on, is not the only way of looking at our lives.

We also know that if life was just all about gaining pleasure that like all pleasures, they can be overdone, become addictions and ironically transform into more pain in our lives, and then we get stuck. Being stuck would have to easily be one of the top 3 reasons why people fall behind in their lives. By falling behind, I mean that they are nowhere near where they thought they would be by now.

Over the last decade and a half, I have asked 100’s of people one simple question. Are you experiencing your life today the way you imagined it 10 years ago? In other words, perhaps when you were 25 you thought that by 35 you would have a certain lifestyle, a particular ...

As I get older I realise more than ever the importance of surrender and letting go. I was thinking about how so much of what I had as a part of my life many years ago simply no longer exists. For example, my grandparents used to live six doors up from my parents' house, where I lived until 26 years of age. My grandparents passed away many years ago, and the house they were in was sold, demolished and replaced with a modern new home.

There is no shred of physical evidence at that address that they even existed. I often think of my running friend from many years ago who last year suddenly passed away from a massive heart attack. I then think of some of my teenagehood heroes like George Michael, Michael Jackson and Prince who have all died. Everything comes to an end.

But is it the end? No. I believe it is the arrogance of the ego to think that it is the driver of this bus. It isn’t, it is simply a passenger with lots of cheap comments and opinions. Life is not what we have, life is som...

Often people use words as linguistic sledgehammers describing situational thumb tacts. One of the most powerful abilities we have is literally on the tip of our tongue. The power of language should not ever be underrated. By power I’m not talking from a grammatical or linguistic skill perspective, but from our ability to accurately depict, describe and language our experience.

In other words, so many people use inappropriately pounded words to describe their experience. For example, after watching my 10 year sons have their last swimming lesson for the school term, they appeared lethargic and devoid of their usual spark, perk and spunk. My mother in law watched, and afterwards at dinner she mentioned to our boys how that was a ‘disastrous ’ lesson. My wife immediately intervened by commenting, that it was far from disastrous, ‘they just seemed to have less energy today’.

Now compare the potential impact of this language on the very easily influenced mind of a 10 year old. Even for us...

More than ever before we need to mind our mind. The emotional experience is not to the virus but to the fear reaction of the masses. During this fascinating time in human history, like any other time we are living out our narrative, our story, in other words, the meaning we are giving our experiences. 

Uncertainty has always played a part in our chosen narrative. The only difference at the moment is that we are experiencing an acute dose of uncertainty. Most, if not, all of us have experienced uncertainty in our lives. In the form of health, relationship break ups, the end of a career, the beginning of a new career, starting a business and so on.

Power of Negative Visualisation.

Just this morning I went for a walk with my wife around our local river. I said to my wife this could be SO much worse!!!! I shared with her how my masseuse (Hi Cass!) was sharing with me how a woman she knows, a few years back had a double mastectomy and recovered from breast cancer. About five weeks ago...

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ALL beliefs are convenient assumptions. None of our beliefs are based on fact. If they were all based on fact, we would all have the same beliefs because we would all be experiencing life exactly the same way.

EVERYTHING we experience in life in ALL areas are filtered through our very own personal unconscious editing process. This editing process happens so fast most of us don't question it. Life for all of us is experienced as though what we see appears in our lives as 'that’s just how it is'. Life is never 'just how it is', life is experienced ‘just how we are.’

All of our convenient assumptions have been created by us as our interpretation of what we witness or observe or experience. Lots of our assumptions have been influenced by someone else, such as our parents or guardians or whoever we hung around lots before the age of 10. As we get older all our beliefs (assumptions) we think are true, become very real and harden into fact. If all our hardened facts stem ...