Are You Healthy For Me?

A recent conversation with my wife inspired a spontaneous insight! I shared with Silvana that she is so healthy for me.  This simply means that in all kinds of ways she has challenged my notion of who I am and what is possible. When someone is healthy for us they awaken aspects of us which would have otherwise remained dormant.

Let’s really think about this….they awaken aspects of us which remain dormant within us. In other words, they love us into being. They love aspects of us into being which otherwise would be lost to the world forever. A relationship that is healthy for us amplifies our potential and magnifies our beauty, our light and our darkness as well.

Unhealthy relationships do the opposite. They minimise us and prevent us from being on the path which births our potential to the world. If we were to be unhealthy for each other, we would be living in fear and in complete violation of our values. We would be continually looking for something outside of us to validate or find esteem in.

Another way of expressing what it means to be healthy for someone is that they help you to become fully self-expressed. This helps us access joy, laughter, love, appreciation, healthy expressions of anger or frustrations and so on.

Unhealthy relationships shut down most forms of genuine self-expression.

After I shared with Silvana that she is healthy for me, I asked her if I was healthy for her. Her answer? “You better be!!” And we laughed……one of the greatest ways to connect.

Thank you for reading, love Joe.