Behind the scenes of letting go, is what we decide to focus on and what we make it mean. Are we focused on problems or solutions? On what we have or what we are missing? The past or the future? 

Here is another question I have personally found to be very useful as well. How is this a problem for me right now in this moment? We can only view the past or the future from right now, in this moment. Nobody has ever been to the past or the future. Sure, we can think about it but we can’t go there because all we have is this moment in time, right now. 

All moments are just moments in time and will pass. This is because the now is not everlasting, it is ever-present. This is a crucial distinction. The ever-present is continually changing. Nothing stays still, the good, the bad and even the ordinary. 

Let’s enjoy the adventures of the ever-present moment and what these precious moments keep transforming or experiencing.

Thanks so much for reading, cheers Joe Pane. 

Emotional fitness is learning how to continue to transform your relationship with uncertainty. The quality of our relationship with uncertainty matters immensely as it is a precursor to all growth.  Growth is the perpetual need of the human condition.  It is the very fabric of life; without it we cannot progress in who we are becoming and who we need to be to handle life’s inevitable challenges and problems.

There are 5 key components of emotional fitness, of which all contribute to this all-important relationship to uncertainty. 

1. Identity – our self-concept. By having clarity of who we are we can connect with the certainty needed to tackle difficult problems. This certainty is about backing oneself.
2. Life Stages – our journey from ambition to meaning. This is the journey from ego centricity to heart centricity. Focusing on what we can give rather than what we are getting, enables us to create a functional and purposeful meaning when navigating anything difficult.
3. Values – our emo...

As 2025 fast approaches, we once again face a new chapter in all our lives. We have become the accumulation of all choices, decisions, and actions we have and have not taken. Naturally this will continue into 2025 and beyond.

When we don’t make that choice or decision, we cannot see what lies beyond it. Often when faced with significant decisions which will impact our lives and life direction, we can become guilty staying still. Our ego’s addiction to certainty comes to the fore and can complicate choice points. 

The ego’s favourite tool is fear. It loves engaging in the ‘what if’ talk, dealing in inuendo and hypotheticals, of which the majority will never come to fruition. When the ego is driving the bus, it prefers to stick to well known routes. When our spirit or soul drives the bus, we embrace the adventure of the unknown. We go down roads which have never existed.

Carl Jung identified that we can live in one of two worlds. Those two worlds are the conventional world or the spec...

The ultimate purpose of embracing uncertainty is that it eventually leads to all of us becoming an authority on ourselves. This means by doing hard things we begin to awaken aspects off ourselves which we never knew existed. 

These new parts, which have always been available to us, will prove to be very useful for any future challenge we need to navigate. For example, when I worked in real estate in the late 90s and early 2000s, I did a lot of cold calling and door knocking on the streets. We also had a mentor in the office who loved teachers like Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy. 

Embracing the fear and discomfort of going out cold calling looking for new business, and listening to people like Jim, Zig and Brian, unbeknown to me was preparing me to have my own business one day. It was such a great preparation for what was to come. 

Becoming an authority on ourselves also means we create a deeply personal sense of wisdom. Emotionally fit people have a quiet sense of wisdom. What...

Have you ever been instantly triggered by someone for no logical reason? Have you ever found yourself overreacting to a seemingly innocuous comment? What about anger? Have you ever become overly angry about something that is a mere inconvenience?

These emotionally riddled triggers can be shocking, surprising and even downright confusing. They can take us and the people around us by complete surprise. Human behaviour is complex. It has been said that every where we go, there we are. Carl Jung once said that all perception is projection. In other words, every where we go, we can only experience aspects of ourselves. More accurately said, every where we go we can only experience aspects of our unconscious mind projecting itself onto the screen of life.  These projections can vary from inspirational experiences through to experiences we detest. 

The negatively charged experiences can become very difficult to accept when we experience in others triggers or qualities which we detest or ref...

Over the last 17 years, having trained well over 7000 coaches who work out in the field, delivered 1000s of hours 1:1 mentoring, coaching and guiding people from all walks of life, having delivered 1000s of trainings, shared with 100s of conferences, and delivered well in excess of 10,000 hours of group coaching, there is ONE THING that impacts your potential more than anything else.

This ONE THING will most definitely decide your success, your impact and your quality of life. This ONE THING is a big deal. How YOU deal with this ONE THING will also determine the level of impact you can make on your client’s or teams lives.

That ONE THING is the quality of your relationship with uncertainty. There are only 3 ways to deal with uncertainty and only ONE of these ways will work. This is not my opinion; it is the very nature of the journey we are all on.

Most people try to go around uncertainty. That doesn’t work.  Some people stop in the face of uncertainty and freeze, and they get stuck...