No Such Thing As Signs.

Dear me could this be true? Well let’s go behind the behavioural scenes here and look at how signs are created on our reality. Firstly, we need to understand that we can’t experience reality. We can only experience our perception of it. Our perception is a very personal, unique, psychological construct which we create, whether we are aware of this or not. Gravity doesn’t require us to believe in it. It just is whether we believe in it or not.

We know from the world of quantum physics and consciousness research that what we focus on is all we will get to the exclusion of everything else. We can only experience one radio station at a time. What we do not focus on ceases to exist in our experience. All the radio stations which we cannot tune into still exist. Just not in our experience.

When I first began thinking about becoming a behavioural coach and trainer, I also considered very seriously perhaps becoming a personal trainer. I went to one of the highly regarded schools in that space and spoke to a couple of experts. In fact, one of the senior personal trainers invited me to attend and observe a personal training session for one of his clients.

I had to wait about a week for the opportunity to be an observer of this fellow’s training session. Was looking forward to it a lot. In that week I began observing ‘signs’ that perhaps I was onto something. That perhaps at long last I had discovered a vocation which aligned to my values and everything I stand for! I was internally combusting with the potential. I was fully tuned into ‘personal training business FM.’

Driving the streets, I began noticing personal trainers everywhere, in all (well not all, most) parks I drove by. It was like my behavioural/psychological algorithm kicked and deleted all that was not PT FM and expanded and bought to my attention everything PT FM. Now, I can clearly hear you may be saying, that well its reasonably obvious that if you are intensely thinking about something it will effect what grabs your attention out in the world. I would fully agree with you.

So what has this got to do with signs? Great question. It was a few days later I was in my gym just warming up for my session, riding a bike. Overhead speakers always played music normally tuned into some radio station. Heavens to Betsy next thing you know I hear an ad promoting a career in personal training!!! I had never heard such an ad. I mean I had never previously heard anything on the radio promoting a career in this space.

As I listened I began think, oh my lord this IS a sign! It get’s even better though! As I listened intently to the entire ad it was from the actual school I had visited and where I was going a few days later to watch a PT session!! It took my breath away as I thought…oh my!!! This is definitely a sign I am onto something!!!  

Amazing!!!

As the days passed and the emotional dust settled I began thinking about signs. I was remembering when I had my 1977 Celica spray painted red, I couldn’t believe how many red cars were on the road!! Had I created these cars in my reality? Had they been there the whole time but I just didn’t notice them? I think so yes.

What we attribute clues or signs to is nothing more than the contents of our consciousness. In other words, where we have been placing our energy, effort and focus tunes us into that particular experience. Have you ever been thinking about a friend and then they call? Is that a sign? Mmmm interesting.

Be careful making decisions purely based on a ‘sign.’ I never became a PT, I chose a different path which was not based on a sign, but based on something that resonated with me deeper. Our decisions need to be based on an internal based drive not an external based drive.

To decide means to cut off from the past. A sign is a reverberation left over from what we have been focusing on. Decisions are made for future impact not to be enslaved by something which has already happened.

If you still believe in signs, that’s cool, that means you reading or hearing this is a sign of some kind 😊 If you don’t believe in signs I hope you found this to be of some kind of value.